Loved And Cherished
What do parents do when they suspect their young son or daughter is seriously troubled, so much so that their depression leads them to thoughts of suicide? It's a difficult, painful situation to believe is occurring, one that parents would prefer to believe exists only in their disturbed, over-active imagination, and does not reflect reality.
After all, parents worry too much about their offspring, don't they?
Sometimes, however, it is true; young teens are so fully invested in their emotions driven by hormonal changes that affect both their bodies and their thoughts that events they cannot control and which affect them adversely seem to gain monumental proportions that they simply are unable to deal with. And they don't know where to turn.
And this is particularly true of young people who face the fact that they are 'different' than others. Different in the sense of being alternatively gender-attracted; not to those of the opposite sex, but those of their own. And it is no accident that young people unmercifully teased and aggressively taunted for they difference, scorned by so many, turn to suicide for that final solace.
What they do is daydream about the solutions that miraculously and suddenly present themselves and everything is fine. Only those daydreams don't materialize, after all in solutions, and the agony of the emotional insecurity continues unabated. If they're fortune enough to have good friends they trust, they may relate to them what their problems are.
More likely, they keep their problems to themselves. They may download their anxieties to a written diary or to a Facebook page where they will share their agony, and with that also light-hearted moments, so anyone reading what's there might come away thinking it's normal teen angst and it will be dealt with in the fullness of time when the matter becomes resolved.
Sometimes it never is. And the agonized teen, like 15-year-old Allan Hubley of Kanata turns to a concluding chapter of life, and chooses to shut down the conflict within himself. "I wish I could be happy. I try, I try, I try ... I just want to feel special to someone", he wrote. And then he committed himself to the finality of death, and will no longer have to try.
He was, of course, special. All children are. Their parents love them, cherish them and worry for their futures. Never imagining the impossible nightmare that their child will have no future.
After all, parents worry too much about their offspring, don't they?
Sometimes, however, it is true; young teens are so fully invested in their emotions driven by hormonal changes that affect both their bodies and their thoughts that events they cannot control and which affect them adversely seem to gain monumental proportions that they simply are unable to deal with. And they don't know where to turn.
And this is particularly true of young people who face the fact that they are 'different' than others. Different in the sense of being alternatively gender-attracted; not to those of the opposite sex, but those of their own. And it is no accident that young people unmercifully teased and aggressively taunted for they difference, scorned by so many, turn to suicide for that final solace.
What they do is daydream about the solutions that miraculously and suddenly present themselves and everything is fine. Only those daydreams don't materialize, after all in solutions, and the agony of the emotional insecurity continues unabated. If they're fortune enough to have good friends they trust, they may relate to them what their problems are.
More likely, they keep their problems to themselves. They may download their anxieties to a written diary or to a Facebook page where they will share their agony, and with that also light-hearted moments, so anyone reading what's there might come away thinking it's normal teen angst and it will be dealt with in the fullness of time when the matter becomes resolved.
Sometimes it never is. And the agonized teen, like 15-year-old Allan Hubley of Kanata turns to a concluding chapter of life, and chooses to shut down the conflict within himself. "I wish I could be happy. I try, I try, I try ... I just want to feel special to someone", he wrote. And then he committed himself to the finality of death, and will no longer have to try.
He was, of course, special. All children are. Their parents love them, cherish them and worry for their futures. Never imagining the impossible nightmare that their child will have no future.
Labels: Family, Human Relations, Social-Cultural Deviations
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